On behalf of Lake Toback Attorneys
The standard of granting custody of children to the mother in divorce proceedings is becoming a thing of the past. More fathers, in Illinois and across the country, are requesting more parenting time with their kids. Either through an increase in visitation, equal parenting time or even requesting full custody themselves.
For a long time it was believed that removing children, young children in particular, from the full-time care of their mother would be psychologically damaging to the children — specifically relating to overnight stays with their non-residential dads. That information is now believed to be out of date and there is not enough scientific evidence that can justify the validity of such statements. The reasons behind keeping children from overnight stays with their fathers vary, but a few of the old reasons against the practice have recently been debunked.
A few of the reasons behind not allowing young children to have overnight stays with their fathers includes an increase in wheezing and whining. A once popular study claimed that children who spent nights away from their mother were more likely to have increased episodes of wheezing throughout the night. Pediatricians agree that the root cause of wheezing episodes cannot be traced to who the children spend their time with but are more likely related to environmental factors. As far as an increase in irritability, the behavior of children who had more overnight stays with their fathers scored within normal ranges.
Shared parenting time is actually proving to show benefits to the overall well-being of children and their parents. While divorce is difficult, allowing children access to both parents can be beneficial in their ability to move forward. Illinois fathers who wish to have more parenting time with their kids post divorce can certainly seek to negotiate a child custody agreement that will allow them that desired time.
Source: The Huffington Post, “What Divorced Dads Want for Father’s Day: More Time With Their Babies“, Linda Nielsen, May 15, 2014