What Ben Affleck’s speech can teach us about divorce

Manassa & Neugebauer, P.C.

Ben Affleck’s movie “Argo” won the Academy Award for Best Picture on Sunday night. Many were not surprised with the movie winning the award, or how Affleck was genuinely surprised. (After all, he was not nominated for Best Director). However, the blogosphere was ablaze after his frenetic acceptance speech, where he said this about his marriage to actress Jennifer Garner:

I want to thank you for working on our marriage for ten Christmases. It’s good…it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with.

Essentially, people were shocked with how bland and devoid of sentimental value his reference was. (He also joked about mentioning their marriage and the situation in Iran in 1980 in the same sentence.) It was if people expected Affleck to gush about how much he loved her and how she was his world in true “Hollywood” fashion.

However, with every fairy-tale, there is the reality; and the reality is that marriage is work. So it should not surprise the general public that Ben acknowledged reality of his relationship with his wife. This is especially important given his relationship history (Remember Jennifer Lopez? How’s her love life?) and the reality of how stressful and time consuming movie making is.

Like most celebrity stories, we can glean some sense of how we should (and should not) conduct ourselves. So if you believe that your marriage is not worth the emotional or physical investment, that’s okay. Just be aware that any relationship worth maintaining is going to take work.

Source: HuffingtonPost.com, Ben Affleck’s Oscar speech revealed a truth about marriage, February 25, 2013

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